This week “love” is being celebrated across the globe. Growing up, February 14 was like any other day. Not anymore!
If you wonder like I do why February 14 is receiving such global attention, I believe strongly it is because we are created in love to give love and to be loved. It is a natural desire that all humans nurse and I consider it legit. Our Creator is love and He made us in His image.
Unfortunately, because we live in a fallen world, our concept of love is flawed. All media, including social media project love as a romantic feeling and that is the mindset most people have. But, have you pondered on this: if the love God has for you is a feeling, what happens to you when He doesn’t feel loving towards you or you offend Him and He withdraws His love?
“But God clearly shows and proves His own love for us, by the fact that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8 AMP
“For this is how much God loved the world—he gave his one and only, unique Son as a gift. So now everyone who believes in him will never perish but experience everlasting life.”
John 3:16 TPT
The family unit is the primary place where a child experiences love and learns to relate with others in love. Healthy family love is a choice that starts with the parents. It isn’t something that happens without thought and dedication.
As parents, you have a unique opportunity to teach your children how to have a healthy, secure attachment. By being a responsive caregiver, you can start the secure attachment that research has shown leads to higher social functioning later in life. Along with better mental and physical health, a secure attachment gives your child a greater capacity to form healthy attachments with others
Unfortunately, many parents have failed in this responsibility as evidenced in how many teenagers and some adults alike have given unhealthy emotional importance to Valentine’s Day than is necessary. This is a period many people feel unloved, rejected, neglected because they don’t have a date!
As I conclude this post, May I charge parents to kindly revisit and reset their family dynamics (May your family not be like the one described in Genesis 25-28); can teenagers and growing adults alike also reset their minds about the true meaning of love and relationships?
Love is a force generated by decision; it is not an emotional feeling. Love is a choice; an act of the will. Whenever you decide to love, ensure you love yourself first. You can only give love to others from the overflow of your self-love.
Finally, and most importantly, no matter what other relationships we have (or don’t have), we all can have a relationship with God. Through Christ, He invites us to the same kind of connection He has with the Trinity- a loving, giving relationship.
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Happy Valentine’s Day!
Coach Bimpe is the Founder & Chief Servant Officer of Connect Coaching Center, LLC.
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